Thursday, April 24, 2008

Some Things Shouldn't See the Light

Like the racoon who played in my bright, sunny yard this morning. After two failed attempts at getting anyone from the city's police dept or animal control to care about this possibly rabid albeit cuddly critter, who eventually left to play on the posts of my neighbor's fence, I left my house with the kids for the day.

And I brought an aluminum bat with me as I walked out to my car.

Other things should see the light. The following passage is from today's Daily Om. Funny that it arrived in my inbox 16 years to the day that Keith and I started dating.

April 24, 2008
The Direction Of Happiness
Leaving A Relationship

One of the hardest decisions we ever make in life is leaving a long-term relationship that just isn’t working. When attempts at repairing and working out issues aren’t working, it may be time to examine moving on. We are emotional creatures, and when our heartstrings are tied to those of another, separating from that person can feel like an act of courage. It is not something most of us will take lightly, and many of us will struggle with our desire to stay in a relationship that is unfulfilling simply in order to avoid that pain. We may question whether the happiness we seek even exists, and we may wonder if we might be wiser to simply settle where we are, making the best of what we have.

On the one hand, we almost relish the idea that true happiness is not out there so that we can avoid the pain of change. On the other hand, we feel within ourselves a yearning to fulfill our desire for relationships that are vital and healing. Ultimately, most of us will follow this call, because deep within ourselves we know that we deserve to be happy. We all deserve to be happy, no matter where we find ourselves in this moment, and we are all justified in moving, like plants toward the light, in the direction that leads to our greatest fulfillment. First, though, we may need to summon the courage to move on from the relationship that appears to be holding us back.

Taking the first steps will be hard, but the happiness we find when we have freed ourselves from a situation that is draining our energy will outshine any hardship we undergo to get there. Keeping our eyes trained on the horizon, we begin the work of disentangling ourselves from the relationship that no longer fits. Every step brings us closer to a relationship that will work, and the freedom we need to find the happiness we deserve.


PS In other news, Grandma got an excellent prognosis from her doctor yesterday, defying the expectations of everyone. She is doing remarkably well, and I credit her attitude for it. Tomorrow she heads off to meet her college girlfriends (now all in their late 70s and early 80s) for a daytrip.

I love that woman. She called this morning just to tell me that the tulips had finally bloomed. "A stunning red," she said. "Just gorgeous."

Like her.


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